I feel bad for her next target but now that I'm almost out I feel good that I dodged a bullet over the long term. Thank you again, J y May 26, 2018 This is so true. This is a game to the narcissist. I told them I was not taking out a loan. My ex betraying me after 30 years of marriage truly is a gift to me…. Monica February 2, 2019 Another thing I left out, is I brought him to my church about 6 years ago, and now he has infiltrated it and I am a volunteer there. I was the child and my decent and nice father gave up on my mother's revengeful lies to give his children some peace.
Learn the 25 Signs Your Man is a Narcissist. It lasted two years and the last year I had no feelings for him. The man has destroyed lives, and yet all the while portrayed himself as the victim. I love your writing style; it sat well with me. July 5, 2017 Hi Jan, that is true reenacting it without shifting the trauma up and out of our Inner Being is simply regurgitation. All the time claiming she is the victim and she wants no contact. Nor are they always so easy to identify in the day-to-day.
Firstly, you have to stop idealizing him and see him for who he really is. Yet, money and privilege can enable someone to commit either a type of crime or a callous act that is more difficult to detect or for which someone is less likely to be convicted of something illegal. I have been stunned by so so many of us living this way for so long! I have lost all of that now. I was with my ex husband for 30 years… Now I will stop beating myself up for not seeing his true colors…hindsight is beautiful. She is a superb game player.
Its so common that a narcissist treats you badly just to show you that you are not important to him. So in trying to piss off a narcissist, you actually feed them. My husband has no respect for any human being, especially women. The cell phone is his life. It truly was part of my make-up. It sounds like you are getting there.
So I went and got a protective order on him. Mine could win an academy award for playing out husband of the year to every family member, neighbor and friend we have…always making us out to be unappreciative. Ugg I am so over that part of myself. You name it, I had it all. You need to show him that you , even though he has never done it. The only thing that stands in my way is my mind — I suffer from generalized anxiety disorder, which does not help. Keep your private thoughts private until you get a true feel for these people.
And you are absolutely right … life really does have our back, if we will only listen and place our trust in it. I replied that he was making my skin crawl. I am relieved though that I escaped him, I saw beneath the mask, realised he was a dangerous narcissist and hope I never cross paths with him again. This is something we cannot possibly do when he is well. He even inspired me to become a better human being! So much hate and bitterness. And in turn he went insane, running around all the time trying to figure out where I was, if I loved him, doing something to him, hunting me down, then in turn. Thank you for your guidance through what I know now is a journey to a stronger self.
He only cares that his lies were out in the open. I pray for love and healing for you in your life. I walk , talk with confidence. Then one day he showed up. Stay strong we can do it. And setting up a way to communicate regarding settlements and even custody that involves third parties.
I'm so alone and so stuck at the same time. After taking a psychology class I wanted to explore narcissism a little more. Because the narcissist is self-divorced from his or her True Self, the narcissist cannot feel, register or hold good feelings. But he never acknowledges me or my pain. I am so hopeful that my npd husband of 36 years proves through dna to be the father of another womans child. We all fell in love with the nice N.
Every narcissist behaves like this until he gets what he wants. Please be aware that he will probably change tactic, or even discard now that you are not supplying him attention. So I told him I am not leaving the bedroom because he was the one who chose to sleep in the othrr room. Not everyone on Facebook is a Fake-Booker, but I have had numerous experiences with some who definitely appeared to be anything, but Real, and were, in fact, very dangerous. For the cheating part about your question I can not help you with that.
I read this book and it confirmed my suspicions. Part of the reason why is because your actions are still being dictated by the narcissist. I have packed my bags more times than I care to remember, and walked. The thing is, sometimes I feel really bad. When I did leave, he would follow me and beg for me back and promise me the world, promise he would change etc. Each time we broke up he would beg and plead to get back together all the while sleeping with other women and leading them to believe they were the next relationship.