Put yourself in their shoes. But he did the flower thing and a lot of apologies, and they are married now. Good luck, let us know how it works out. I happen to think it is not as easily spread as they say. At first I was devastated.
In addition to learning more about your diagnosis, working with a health care provider can help you learn to manage it, minimizing its impact on your life. And I've never seen blisters or anything like that. Having genital herpes does not mean you need to abstain from having sex. I waited til we were alone obviously and relaxed at his home and sober! It only takes 1 person to spread it if not treated. I do things to suppress it like take medication and boost my immune system.
If you both agree to certain precautions, the chances of spreading herpes to your partner are very small. Because I have genital herpes. I've had partners disappear and then come back because they were off getting tested and wanted to know before they got involved with me what they already had and bring that to the table. Your partner is definitely going to have some emotions. Above all, reward yourself for rejection. And i of course am suffering with genital herpes and my now ex husband has nothing wrong with him. So in all honesty I have to say that I think there are dating sites that do help people with herpes.
I was very unhappy to get it but I have a lot to offer and what I have to offer by far supersedes herpes. The blisters then burst, generally to leave sores which gradually heal, usually without scarring. Why not look for the right person and have a great life. Imaginative lovers find ways to weather these temporary setbacks. Remember that assholes don't deserve your time.
Hey you never know he may have it as well. If not, just pick yourself up and move on. It really didn't bother him. If you mean genital hsv1, well all I can say is dont stress!! Anyone who is sexually active is at risk of catching genital herpes, regardless of their gender, race or social class. I think its hard on ppl with compromised immune systems. Don't try to get sexual at this time. Using condoms between outbreaks will reduce the risk of transmission.
As for telling verses not telling. If they care about you enough, they will take the time to learn the facts about herpes. Although it is true that some people will be unable to see past a genital herpes diagnosis, many people who are have found love. I find when youre closer, things are heating up but no foreplay or kissing or anything has begun. However, Condoms, avoiding contact during outbreaks and taking antivirals cuts the chances down to almost nil.
Excuses create distance between partners and often lead to misunderstanding and guesswork. Genital herpes does not mean abstinence from sex or a reduced enjoyment of sex. I have to agree with Lacey Lilly. I was married 34 yrs, never been with anyone but my ex husband. Be open to answering any questions they might have, no matter how inappropriate those questions might feel. If your partner is not willing to try to work with you and find ways to deal with your diagnosis, he may not be someone you want to be with, for years down the road or for one night. Psychologists have observed that people tend to behave the way you expect them to behave, and expecting rejection increases the chances of an unhappy outcome.
I simply had sex with my husband the month before we got married. Only one took a pass on dating, but he still messages me every now and then as a friend. I would reassure them that whatever they decide - is right for them, and I respect them and their decision. I just hope I didn't give him anything. I'm trying to think of the best way to tell him. For most people the anxiety over not telling is worse than the telling itself and they find their partners both supportive and understanding. Realistic and unrealistic expectations People may just need a little time to assimilate the information.