How could anything ever love me as much as this little human does? I know she will make me very happy when she arrives. Regardless, it does get better when babies are no longer potatoes and can actually do things and interact with you. Seven days old: The day that changed everything. Her father left, so she was filled with anxiety that I would do the same. I would make some small comment about him sucking and that would put her into a bad place, then I would hate the fucker even more. If someone is breaking one of our rules report the comment, so our moderators can remove it.
Do I think it's great that all the home-life support women not working provided for each other especially with new children is now accessible only to the top 1% of society?. I didn't know that back then and I felt like I was the only one. I even told my baby daddy that i want child support and he got all mad and started calling me a slutty mom and shit. Every week I have at least one moment when I feel like a total failure. Didn't feel a whole lotta love.
And then you figure out or have the exact problem diagnosed and suddenly a mountain is lifted off of your shoulders. I'm lucky enough to have few friends with usually better opinions. I keep telling myself it'll be so much better when she's not just a squishy lump, so I'm glad to find that someone else felt around the same thing and said it got a lot better for them. After a short while I hand the baby off to my husband and I cry myself to sleep. I could still function, I didn't let it keep me from leaving my house and working or socializing. It does play a small factor in my decision to stay childfree though, it's only number 25,644,799,743.
I was very happy when she started crawling, and now things are very great now that she walks and is able to do a lot of things by herself, including entertaining herself on her own for quite some time. I fear they will take him away or put me in a mental hospital if I speak up. Don't get me wrong, it is still a gigantic boring pain in the ass that will make you question your decision to have kids almost daily. I didn't love the baby stage but I do love the preschool stage! They're cute and that's it -- totally does not outweigh how needy they are. I cry because I ruined my life. She's crawling and standing up. I'd been wanting a kid for years.
Your post may be removed or redirected. Our daughter is almost 2 and today we spent all day at the local amusement Park. But once I admitted it, I became a better father and husband. Nothing I wouldn't do happily for her and with her. I never wanted to be a stay at home mom and went back to work as soon as I could. However, before getting married I dated a girl with kids whose dad was worthless. I do not miss that first year at all.
All hatred was just flushed away. Recently found out the mom went to prison and the kid was in sitting in a trailer full of meth junkies 5 hours away and I went from having no relationship with him to taking him home and suing for custody in the matter of days. I remember being so frustrated trying to feed our little girl while she cried and I was sleep-deprived, and wanting to throw the fucking bottle through the wall. Great job working through the struggle. I do all the things I'm supposed to - I feed her, I change her, I bath her, I hold her when she cries - she is never neglected, and I don't enjoy a single second of it.
Right as I was about to call it quits, she came through. It was so much work taking care of her, and so little sleep. Sorry you're getting some shit over this. I have been in my past. I didn't, and whilst I'm consciously aware of what's going on, I just don't have the energy reserve to deal with someone who's just being an absolute bitch. I fathered a child I didn't want three years ago but the mom basically disappeared with him and I had no feelings towards him at all.
She's much lower needs -- She's currently occupied putting her baby doll down for a nap. I keep them to myself. I despise this whole process. I'm so glad that things are starting to turn around for you guys. Good on you for having the self-awareness and consideration to think through what's going on. Eventually he'll start to be his own person instead of a needy baby. Still no love, and I haven't told anyone how I am feeling.
What kind of mother does that? I realize at that moment I have not spoken one word to this child since he was born. Then 6 months hit and we made a mutual decision for me to go per diem and then after a year it was full on stay at home and I'm happy about that decision. I pump after every failed feeding attempt. I hate the way he makes me feel. She plays by herself for up to 15 minutes at a time, she puts on her own shoes, she talks to express what she wants, she doesn't cry for no clear reason basically ever. At least you're participating in the parenting, which is more than I had. It gives me hope to know I'm not alone in this and that it does get better.