Hi Terri, I think that what your going through right now is just an age thing. I know she didn't go because she has on a pair of pants she cannot snap and they are still snapped shut. They chose a different color, but all in all it seems to work - for how much longer, I don't know, but for now it is. Next and more importantly incorporate something positive for when she tells the truth right away. Try explaining to her when it is okay to tell stories, such as story time, playtime playing make believe. There is different levels of maturing in their develpment according to Piaget there are: Preoperational Concrete Abstract It is facinating reading and helps a lot when you teach understanding what level the childs is at. Young children do not share well either but we encourage or make them anyway.
She comes out and says she's done. Praise and reward her when she uses those words without being prompted. Your daughters needs are so much more complex and often subtle that there will not be a quick answer that stackexcange was designed for. And that is what your daughter does. Because, this is a character issue that cannot go unfixed--even if it takes a while.
If she's testing your limits, make sure she knows they're non-negotiable. Has anyone else had to do deal with this? Give her lots of cuddles and positive attention. Find out what she knows before you attempt to correct it - usually the answer is there in what she learned. Also, when you set time limits on how long the t. Look at it the same way with your child. Confrontation should result in repentance.
Other reasons kick in that are just as compelling as developmental understanding. I attended a group parenting intervention class 14 weeks thought by the local university to that I could learn how to better help child with Autism. She loved him and never went through jealousy when he was real little, but it seems that she is a little now that he can walk and really play. We'd give her scenarios and ask how that would make her feel-- like if someone took her pencil and then said they didn't take it. I've read in a lot of places that it's normal for this age to lie. Lie and they do get to be normal teens but they feel horrible about the lying. She has nothing else to do, and the attention from the argument itself is a big part of what she wants.
It started getting bad about 6 months ago. Most children carry a fear of being found to be less than, or are in contact with others who are highly competitive. Know that your daughter needs to feel right even when she isn't to build self-confidence. If she's still not calming down, go in there every 5 minutes or so to remind her of the rule, and maybe add disincentives like a favorite toy getting taken away. If the Bible says it it is truth, but when they are small and learning, they just say things sometimes I think.
I think at this age standing or sitting in a corner for 5 minutes is the best punishment because to them 5 minutes seems like an eternity when they could be doing something fun. Obviously, as parent there will be times when you will need to just make decisions for her, but there may be times when you can give a little too. They like the game as long as they aren't already in trouble. Again, it comes down to accepting that some things are frustrating to your daughter and that it is perfectly okay that she lets you know of this frustration. Everyone struggles with this at some point, and reaching out for support is absolutely the best thing you can do. Why do you treat your child in a way that you would never accept if it were done with you? She is the cause of all that happens in the world. Or let it slide, to avoid crushing her creativity? You cannot win an argument of wills with your daughter.
If you tell the truth you may get in this much trouble show with two fingers about an inch apart. First, every lie a child tells has a truth behind it, and different lies signal different truths. Around the age of 6 or 7, children develop the ability to understand and care about another person's wishes and needs. If I remember correctly from my child psychology text books since I have minimal personal experience with this issue right now :- , 5 year olds have a hard time telling the difference between fantasy and reality. That's at least something they understand, sometimes they don't understand hurting peoples feelings or why it is important to tell the truth, this is something they learn as they get older. I think it has gotten a little better.
If you spend time reasoning with them and asking them questions you already know the answer too in a light and calm way they will feel more at ease letting you know they are less than perfect. If your response to a lie is the same as your response to not putting away toys. The need for truthtelling and the ability to understand the concept of lying are things that kids grow into as they grow. We would do this periodically and make a game out of it. It may be because they still want to please you but also exert their own independence and they have found that this method fits the bill. Secondly I am going to try the lying thing. Quit work and stay home with my kids 2.
That is why it is so easy for them to believe in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, etc. Are you ready to tell the truth? Instead, go and look to see if his room is picked up, or if the garbage has been taken out. She is now at the point that she is lying to her teacher, as well as just out right not listening. Parenting is always a work in progress. We value your opinions and encourage you to add your comments to this discussion. Second, following from your understanding that your child's behavior is totally normal and in tune with her current developmental abilities, there is no need to get upset about your child's emotional outburst.